and squad leader, don't want to deal with ceilings towards mary and decorum breaks down, you're in an environment of you know, in the dirt, fighting an enemy, passions, that's another complicated factor there? >> let me stop you there, now that we -- we've had gays serving in the military sometime don't ask, don't tell. that's been reversed, but you know, and matt may have been having feelings for mike for a long time in the fox hole and the military has been doing okay. if you introduce women in there and you know, straight men start to have romantic feelings for female, you know, platoon mates or vice versa how does it change anything. >> that may well be the case, but there are a lot more matts having feelings for mary. and where those feelings are amplyfied or complicates the situation that-- >> let me jump in. you're trained, you're professionals, you're not monkeys, you may have the feelings, but you may control the feelings. >> when your r-you've been out in the field for 30 days without a shower and going to the bathroom in front of the guy in front of you. >> megyn: i'm thinking that mar